This week I decided to briefly step away from my story. Events have transpired to someone very close to my heart. This compelled me to speak to what true Courage of Character means to me.
All persons are dealt shitty cards at one time or another. It’s not a matter of what these cards are, rather how we play them in our lives. Taking the learnings with us after the game is over.
This is to mean, do we roll over? Succumb to our circumstance? Do we allow ourselves to surrender? Opening up to those whom can really help us physically? And Mentality?
In these moments, the temptation is strong to allow ourselves to roll over. There is a strong mental game that takes place when trying to absorb a situation to its fullest. The decision of how to process a given situation may be skewed by countless obstacles.
Like many, as I’ve played the game, I have been dealt hands that one could only dream of. From promotions at work that took me in directions I never thought possible, to long lasting relationships that seemingly arrived out of nowhere. Unfortunately we cannot have a guarantee every hand dealt will lead to a positive life change.
My wife made an interesting comment to me last night. She explained when it comes to being real about how I am feeling both physically and mentally, I have a great poker face. Over the years, through our shared experiences, she has learned my tells. As much as I put up a front, she sees right through it.
When a hand we are dealt is not ideal, how we play that hand is what counts the most. In the past, I would put on my face not allowing others to see my hand for what it’s worth. Through my experiences I have learned by not letting others in, I hurt myself along with those closest to me.
We all have people in our lives to count on, to be in our corner during these times. It may be a spouse, parent, guardian, sibling or a close friend. For some, such as myself, these people may not be as prevalent in our lives until that hand is dealt.
In my opinion, Courage of Character is how one let’s their guard down. Is real and true to themselves first, which leads to letting others in. Moreover, when we see someone who has also received a bad hand, we offer our experience openly. Explaining even with a bad hand we are forced to play, the game continues. New hands will be dealt. Offering a longer lasting and far more fulfilling game.
This Courage of Character, allows us to be who we truly are, not what others may perceive us to be.
A life of regret, is not a life lived.
A life not shared, is a life not fulfilled.